Well we did get GREAT news last Friday that we have the final piece of paper we need to be ready to request a court date. It is wonderful. But it is also ironic that I thought we were here back in March. I have found with adoption that it is a hurry up and wait game.
You will be waiting for something along the process. You sit with baited breath. You get so frustrated that you want to pull your hair out. You pray, you cry, you pray, you rage, you dream of a magical world where children come home, you pray. Then just when you think you might go crazy if you have to wait another day...poof you get the news you are waiting for. You get the fingerprint clearance, you get the dossier done, you get the referral letter, you get the MOWA letter, you get ........ There is joy, there is happiness, there are texts flying to friends and family, there are thankful prayers to God. Then the next day after the celebration of receiving whatever it is you have been waiting for dies down, well.... you start to wait. And the agony starts again.
I calculate that we have at least five more wait phases to live through. We are now in the "waiting to hear when our first court date is" phase. It is just what it sounds like. Every agency in Ethiopia has certain days they can present paperwork to the courts and they are limited to a certain amount of cases they can submit on their day. Here are the next phases that will consume me
Phase one(right now) - waiting to hear when our finder or birth mother court date is. (This is when the person who found the child or the birth mother will go to court and testify about the circumstances.)
Phase two - waiting for the result of the first court date...sometimes they need more information or the individual cannot make it or....
Phase three - waiting for OUR court date.. this is the date we will travel for and meet our daughter and legally become her parents.
Phase four - waiting to be submitted to court. This can take a month or so. They have to gather court documents, birth certificates, ect.
Phases Five - clearing Embassy. When the Embassy has finished reviewing your case and deciding that the history is correct. You are then free to go back to Ethiopia and pick your child up.
There are more phases if something goes wrong in this list but this is what looms ahead of us. I think it is often a three month process but we NEED it to be a 2 1/2 month process. If it takes longer then we cannot clear Embassy until we have moved to Hawaii had a social worker review our home study, visit our home and send the document on to immigration. Boo Hoo that would be sad. It would add a month or two to our wait.
But God knows what is best for her, for us, for the boys. So on a good day the wait is at the back of my mind and I trust, I feel content with life. On a bad day I fume and rant and can't understand the process. The more I remember that God is good, big and powerful, the more good days I have.